When ever I look at my watch to check the time, I can't help but become aware of how much time in my life I have spent over-thinking and feeling over-whelmed about situations that really have no bearing on my daily happiness. I cherish and hold on to so many memories and re-live them because, I never resolved what should have been resolved at the moment they happened. How many of us have experienced that? I can not believe that I am the only one who has experienced these episodes. Over-thinking means we are living in the past, fearing the future and not living in the present tense. The single most important question is, "How do we stop over-thinking and put an end to being over-sensitive to our environment?"
Being an over-sensitive, over-thinking individual doesn't happen overnight. It evolves through years and years of repressed fears and not being allowed to express what we need to express when we need to express it. We learn to worry instead of self-advocate for what we need. We do this because we do not believe anyone will listen. Most times that is simply not true but it is what we are telling ourselves is true. We become fixated on what other people think about us rather than focus on what is important to US. US. We need to know ourselves so well that we can spot what is not and never has worked for us personally. Living in the present means we only need to do our best even under the most difficult of circumstances. Self-advocacy. Self-love. Self-preservation.
There are no clear cut answers to finding "our peace" with over-thinking. The solutions are individually wrapped. There are no cookie cutter solutions but what has become very clear to me over that past couple of years, and in particular now, is that awareness is key. Our bodies tell us we are in trouble. Our emotions seize and we stop living the way we should be. We close ourselves off. Our communication with our loved ones lessens. This was not in our plans but it happens.
The only way out that I can finally see is if we want happiness and joy, we stop the over-thinkng and we stop living in the past. We don't poop on the present. We speak the truth to those who need to hear it and express our love afterwards. We live in the present and keep our eye on what is necessary for our peace. It is not easy nor should it be because if it was easy, we would never appreciate where we are and what we have...even the pain and hurt that often comes with over-thinking. We can be better than that
